Relationships
begin with great expectations which later boils down to painful
heartbreaks trading it's grandiose honeymoon period only to become a
bitter subject of discussion to kill time. We all at one point of our
lives must have experienced a relationship that wounded our hearts
for rarely one finds true love at the first try.
A
failed relationship is not a photograph to be framed and kept in the
house as a deco item, it is indeed a broken mirror which demands
immediate disposal. The only thing one should know is the hows and
whys behind it, then the shattered pieces are good to go out of our
lives forever. Unlike a framed photograph which stays at a corner and
awaken memories, a failed relationship is worth nothing more than a
lesson and a quick-correction of the once-made mistakes.
To
answer what I've learned from my failed relationships, I should say
to stay strong. Being a person who truly believes that a relationship
involves two people of different views and characters, tolerance is
often the key to unlock the disagreements and behaviors opposed to my
individual belief. In the long run though, I found myself on the
wrong side waving the white flag. Tolerance can aid, but will not
solve. To stay in a relationship, one needs strength, I mean a lot of
strength. The strength of a heavyweight champion at heart to endure
whatever thrown and also the courage to walk away when the door
finally leads you out from the dreamland once regarded as 'forever'.
The
problem with women of these times is we're scared, particularly to
start over and counting the probability of not finding another person
who would sincerely accept us for who we are. We settle for less and
welcome more mess voluntarily only due to the lack of courage. It's
not always about fixing situations. What if a situation were to be
repeated a million times? Are you going to spend a lifetime
correcting what should have been disposed long ago? This is where
strength and courage plays part. True love is about holding on but
what's the point of gluing together something you know won't stick
together?
That's
what I've learnt for myself. To have the strength to travel south
rationally and leave for the better the moment I become aware of
cracks that can't be mended anymore.
Relationships
are not for the faint-hearted. Once you get yourself in, there's hell
a lot of commitments and responsibilities to piggyback along with
your partner. You get yourself in, you get yourself out. However, if
you're lucky enough to land yourself a diamond in the green box and
prince riding a Friesian horse, Bingo it is! :D
Renuka
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